tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996622634479166822.post8346471479355425668..comments2023-06-01T06:33:08.084-05:00Comments on The untamed thoughts on ... Autism: Coping with emotionsLibertinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10060928203262595846noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996622634479166822.post-34782629818836586332010-01-15T17:04:08.755-06:002010-01-15T17:04:08.755-06:00eaucoin: thank you, for all your comments. I have ...eaucoin: thank you, for all your comments. I have taken all of it in with appreciation. I think as you daughter finds dance absolving, mine takes that from drama. You are very right in this. Although I myself am non religious, Cirwen attended a primary school supported by a church, therefore she is educated towards it as well. I leave the choice of religion to my daughter once she is grown up enough to be able to make that decision.<br /><br />Alpha, thank you for the push (lol). I didn't even realise how long I was gone...Libertinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10060928203262595846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996622634479166822.post-3235731450287540782010-01-15T01:14:53.593-06:002010-01-15T01:14:53.593-06:00I hope things got better.:)
We miss you here.I hope things got better.:)<br /><br />We miss you here.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00724418706506236830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996622634479166822.post-44376621673389955022010-01-09T13:38:08.590-06:002010-01-09T13:38:08.590-06:00I am commenting now because you have not posted fo...I am commenting now because you have not posted for a while and I am hoping you are just busy and not too discouraged. This diary that Cirwen is keeping sounds very much like the cognitive behavior therapy used to treat adults with Aspergers, and it has good results. There is a list of common cognitive distortions that people with Aspergers are prone to, and the training involves having them keep a thought record which they then examine to spot the distortions in their own thinking. This is, of course, especially challenging to do when you are in an emotional state and so takes practice and perserverance. The idea is to help them coach themselves positively, and thereby reduce their anxiety level. My children have never had any therapy here, none was available. My oldest daughter has determined that dancing has reduced her stress at work for two reasons. She is more physically fit and has as a result more physical endurance, but (and this was the surprise) learning to let her partner lead in dance (because the man always leads) and seeing the problems that result when she doesn't let him lead have helped her to draw better boundaries at work between her own responsibilities and other's. There was a time when she was blamed (and accepted responsibility for) other people's work and mistakes because she often makes mistakes herself and just wants everyone to get along. I did not think that at her age (29) this situation was likely to change much. So this was a lesson for me, that improvement is always possible and many times special interests will lead to unforeseen opportunities for growth, and even in areas where you don't know how to help, your child's struggle itself will yield progress that will help to generate ongoing hope. I believe this is the most important thing that you can give them and it is much easier to do this if you believe in God. I understand that belief in other people buoys many, but those who are disabled are often seeing people at their worst, so belief in God is much more helpful. When you are feeling exhausted and stuck, nothing succeeds like prayer. I hope I have not offended you, but I have five daughters and even the neurotypical ones were harder on me than on their father. This is the way of daughters and we need to be aware that this is not a reflection on us personally.eaucoinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03572252291115673745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996622634479166822.post-67435730035114218982009-11-03T00:28:52.563-06:002009-11-03T00:28:52.563-06:00Libertine,
This age is difficult for any young gi...Libertine,<br /><br />This age is difficult for any young girl and more so for Cirwen but she has a strong support system with you and her teachers. The diary sounds like a splendid idea, hopefully it will make a difference. <br /><br />JudySquirrelQueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00634513897599275287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996622634479166822.post-2618182844339115442009-11-01T13:59:37.639-06:002009-11-01T13:59:37.639-06:00She is so fortunate to have you by her side to hel...She is so fortunate to have you by her side to help her through life. It sounds tough, but your determination does you and her credit.Madame DeFargehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08172239340844485940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6996622634479166822.post-35127496090679793222009-10-31T09:07:04.965-05:002009-10-31T09:07:04.965-05:00Good morning Libertine,
"I am still looking ...Good morning Libertine,<br /><br />"<b>I am still looking for advice and resources. It is going to be a long journey and time consuming. But I know we will find a way.</b>" <i>-- I like this attitude you convey.</i> You do not limit yourself because of the unknown; you continue to seek options which provide a doorway to hope and success.<br /><br />Cirwen is very fortunate to have a loving, caring mother.<br /><br /><a href="http://underovr.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">U</a>underOvr (aka The U)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09241293702725984736noreply@blogger.com