Friday, 15 January 2010

New Year - New Hope

Happy New Year my dear friends and future friends.
I haven't been here for a long time. Too long...

Cirwen's emotional problems, bullying, pre-Christmas
run-around and a strain of flu from one family member
to another took their toll. I was too tired to read or write.
If I was a hypochondriac I would have thought I was
narcoleptic :-)

However, I am pleased the year 2009 finished on a good

After an violent incident on the way from school, when
Cirwen was attacked and kicked by another girl, things
have been dealt with swiftly. A parent of another child
saw what happened and called the school. 15 minutes
after my daughter came back home, I received a phone call
from the Head of the Year 7 asking about Cirwen's well
being and for her to submit the statement to him first
thing in the morning. Apparently the girl was already
a major concern at the Academy.

Cirwen, as frightened and upset she was, went to school
the next day and made the statement. Obviously she
was advised to stay away from the girl as much as possible.
Since then, apart from an odd teasing remarks, nothing
as horrible happened.

My beautiful girl took part in the Academy Winter Showcase
taking major part in their Christmas performance. She glowed,
her voice rang when she recited the poem, her movement was
flawless. Both her dad and me were proud as proud could be!
we spoke to the drama teacher who told us that Cirwen is now
the "resident member" of the drama club and she's not allowed
to leave until she leaves the Academy.

Not that Cirwen would like to anyway. I have found that drama,
which she really enjoys, helps her understand the emotions and
feelings, or how to deal with some situations. She began to deal with
teasing in a much calmer manner. The howling and running out
of the classroom has stopped, and she started to enjoy going to
school again. I think it might have helped that she made many
good friends with older pupils at the drama club as well.

Well, that's the best news so far. It doesn't mean the fight is over.
It means we can do this. It means provided the right support from
school and members of the community, we can stop bullying.
She/he probably will never read this, but I would like to say a deep,
heartfelt THANK YOU, to the mum or dad I don't even know,
who called and reported the incident at the bus stop that day.
People like you make a Difference. Thank you.


  1. Libertine, I am sorry to hear about the after school incident but glad to hear it was dealt with quickly. The couple who reported it are wonderful people, we need more like them in the world.

    That is so exciting about the drama club, the experiences Cirwen will have there could make a real difference. And as you said, she will form many lasting friendships with other members of the group.

    It is good to see you again. I was out most of yesterday and today. A quick post last night and I just now had a chance to sit down and read my comments. I came over as soon as I saw you were back.


  2. Isn't it just horrible when children with a disability are bullied. It makes me want to beat the child doing the bullying. Unfortunately, the school looks down on that and I would be fired.

  3. SQ: Thanks for coming, it's great to see your friends after such a long time! You are very right, about the drama club. Not only friendship but also social stories she act out or watch others acting is a great way of learning.

    Tonya: Lol, as a parent I also would be fired for hitting the bully... weather it was my own child or not... I completely understand your feeling.

  4. Great to see you back and sorry that things have been so difficult. Bullying is crap at the best of times, but I'm glad that Cirwen got the support she deserved. Drama club sounds great fun. But hope you are keeping well too. It sounds like it's been a trying time for all concerned.

  5. Indeed it was. I've been busy and a bit depressively frustrated... Well, we survived it Madame. We are back on our feet and kicking again.

  6. i hope i'm not too late to say happy new year for you all. may God bless you all in your carreer and healthy and life.
    thank you